I find it bizarre that many people seem to think they should be able to go through life without encountering people they find disagreeable, whether online or in real life. Let's be clear here; people insulting you does not compromise your safety. Saying so is just a weird use of language.
The best advice for you has already been given; block, ignore, move on. I would add another piece of stoic advice; expect to encounter idiots as you go about your day, then when they inevitably arrive, you will not be taken by surprise.
As for the moderators taking action, maybe they will, maybe they wont. As someone else above said;
@Brian-E said in #9:
> Insulting and disrespectful behaviour is subjective of course. But you can be assured that if the behaviour is judged to be insulting and/or disrespectful and you report it, then it will be handled by the moderators.
He who angers you, conquers you...
To keep the community the safe we need more and especially BETTER moderators
Some think safety is only a street concern, but I want to explain why it’s vital online too, especially since children use this site. Kids are vulnerable to risks like cyberbullying and inappropriate content, which can deeply affect them. Disrespectful messages contribute to an unsafe atmosphere, and if they keep appearing, it shows the measures aren’t working. We need clarity on what’s unacceptable and stronger steps to protect everyone, including younger users.
@EmPheroR said in #13:
> Some think safety is only a street concern, but I want to explain why it’s vital online too, especially since children use this site. Kids are vulnerable to risks like cyberbullying and inappropriate content, which can deeply affect them. Disrespectful messages contribute to an unsafe atmosphere, and if they keep appearing, it shows the measures aren’t working. We need clarity on what’s unacceptable and stronger steps to protect everyone, including younger users.
This has been covered many times before. Kid Mode exists for parents. Children aren't allowed to use the forums, but we can't control how parents monitor their children. Just like we can't stop a parent from allowing their child to watch a film suitable for adults. You could say children could be exposed to inappropriate content by being online in general and there is a case to be made for not allowing kids access to social media.
Again, I have to disagree with your wording. Disrespectful messages do not make people unsafe. Uncomfortable is not the same as unsafe. Again, disrespectful behaviour is subjective. What you deem disrespectful, another person may interpret as fun. So you can't really police this in a way that would satisfy everyone! It's impossible!
The best you can do is take a look at Lichess TOS and if someone is violating them, you can report and leave it to the moderators to moderate!
I would suggest you get used to seeing people say things you disagree with or make you feel uncomfortable. You won't get far in life otherwise!
@betternever said in #14:
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@betternever said in #14:
> This has been covered many times before. Kid Mode exists for parents. Children aren't allowed to use the forums, but I can't control how parents monitor their children. Just like I can't stop a parent from allowing their child to watch a film suitable adults. You could say children could be exposed to inappropriate content by being online in general and there is a case to be made for not allowing kids access to social media.
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> Again, I have to disagree with your wording. Disrespectful messages do not make people unsafe. Uncomfortable is not the same as unsafe. Again, disrespectful behaviour is subjective. What you deem disrespectful, another person may interpret as fun. So you can't really police this in a way that would satisfy everyone! It's impossible!
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> The best you can do is take a look at Lichess TOS and if someone is violating them, you can report and leave it to the moderators to moderate!
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> I would suggest you get used to seeing people say things you disagree with or make you feel uncomfortable. You won't get far in life otherwise!
I’ve reported violations as suggested, but when disrespectful behavior continues publicly, it feels like the moderation process isn’t fully addressing the impact. That’s why I’m advocating for more transparency or effectiveness in how these issues are handled—perhaps through better guidelines or more active moderation. As for getting used to discomfort, I hear you, and I’m not trying to avoid all disagreement. But I believe there’s a difference between differing opinions and targeted disrespect.and dont worry about my life!
@EmPheroR said in #13:
> Disrespectful messages contribute to an unsafe atmosphere, and if they keep appearing, it shows the measures aren’t working.
I'm afraid the only way to reliably prevent them from appearing would be to drop the forum and all other forms of chats - which is IMHO not desirable. Or only publishing comments only after a moderator approval - which is IMHO not feasible.
@EmPheroR Don't bring kids into it when you just want someone to punish people who are mean to you, it's a bit over the top. If you're really concerned about what kids will experience, you can test it for yourself by enabling the mode especially made for children. This will also address your concerns about seeing 'unsafe' comments.
@stod said in #17:
you can test it for yourself by enabling the mode especially made for children. This will also address your concerns about seeing 'unsafe' comments.
Does the kids option remove the chat feature?
@AyaanshGaur12 said in #18:
> Does the kids option remove the chat feature?
https://lichess.org/page/kid-mode
Yes, it's basically a self-imposed chatban (and beyond)
Well, here's your solution, @EmPheroR!
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