"I disagree that 1.e4 e5 and 1.d4 d5 are 'simple' to defend" * They are most natural. The good moves indicate themselves.
"they are very theory-heavy" * 1 e4 c5 and 1 d4 Nf6 are heavier in theory
"there are many risky lines" * Even more in 1 e4 c5 or 1 d4 Nf6
"if you play wrong, you get positionally crushed" * Even more in 1 e4 c5 or 1 d4 Nf6
"I would advise an initial opening avoiding theory" * Such as? Al that is good has been played more often and thus has more theory.
"play the French for black" * French Defense is sound, but hard to play correctly. You get a cramped position and problems to develop Bc8. White gets an attack based on his pawn on e5.
"a similar setup against d4 maybe with e6" * 1 d4 d5 2 c4 e6 is very good and simple. 1 d4 Nf6 2 c4 e6 is sound too, but harder to play correctly.
"I disagree that 1.e4 e5 and 1.d4 d5 are 'simple' to defend" * They are most natural. The good moves indicate themselves.
"they are very theory-heavy" * 1 e4 c5 and 1 d4 Nf6 are heavier in theory
"there are many risky lines" * Even more in 1 e4 c5 or 1 d4 Nf6
"if you play wrong, you get positionally crushed" * Even more in 1 e4 c5 or 1 d4 Nf6
"I would advise an initial opening avoiding theory" * Such as? Al that is good has been played more often and thus has more theory.
"play the French for black" * French Defense is sound, but hard to play correctly. You get a cramped position and problems to develop Bc8. White gets an attack based on his pawn on e5.
"a similar setup against d4 maybe with e6" * 1 d4 d5 2 c4 e6 is very good and simple. 1 d4 Nf6 2 c4 e6 is sound too, but harder to play correctly.