The new trend on Lichess: "NO REMATCH"

@Bukowskithebum Your post says more about how you see the world than how it really is. I'm simply not interested in 'do-overs' to assuage somebody's ego. If they really care they can use the chat box.

"@Bukowskithebum Your post says more about how you see the world than how it really is..."

Exactly this^^

Problem is some people cant tell the difference.

As this topic is more about psychology than about chess my interest shifts to the question:

What is the motivation to ask for a rematch?

This is especially to the topic starter and @Bukowskithebum. But as there are different motivations even in one person, as I know from myself, answers of everyone are welcome.

For me it's question about good game. That is, if i like to play with someone i usually ask for rematch (whether i lose or win). Same with "befriending" someone here. If i like the way someone play i usually began to follow them. To be honest, i sometimes feel a bit disappointed if someone doesn't accept rematch, because for me it's about enjoying the game and respecting my opponent and not about any feeling of (un-)righteous anger and i hope others feel the same way.

So yes, it'll be interesting to hear what people have to say about this.

@jupp53 Imagine in a tennis match if one player scores a point and walks away to play another player. It feels like the match isn't over yet, and you want to play another game. To me is the same, if we are talking about blitz and bullet, it's just too fast, like scoring a point in tennis. If you are going to play another game anyway, why don't you play with the same player that just gave you a good game? I ask for rematches because I always feel that playing a match is better than playing a single game. You can make a mouse slip or make a stupid blunder in a single game and lose a game. In a match you have no excuses...

I know a guy who had nothing to do on a Saturday afternoon once so for laughs he registered in a FIDE tournament with a 90+30 time control. On move three, about 5 minutes into the game, he excused himself for the bathroom, exited the building, got in his car - and drove home. Now THAT'S funny and what chess is all about. Slappin' the wood around and havin' a good time!

@TheGreenMachine420

Hilarious. Bet you are fun at parties...

@sterobe I can absolutely guarantee you that I am LOL. I've had some good times over the years.

@etaLaskera but chess aint tennis. One chess game does not consit sets and games. It is just one game

@chesseater78

Thanks. I feel the same way about a good fight and following a player. There are so many incredible bad games (from my side too), that every good game is fun, independent from the result.

As I play atm only rapid and faster in the Zen-mode I don't discuss much after the game. But before doing this I had some good chats here. So replay is a question of mood, time, fun for me. What do I know about the person on the other end of the connection? So at least here I succeed in taking this not personal. It's factual and doesn't disturb me if I observe myself correctly.

@etaLaskera

Thanks too. I get your point and think making appointments for matches would be a good option to satisfy your wishes. A blitz or bullet match should be no problem and be fun for you and your opponent. I wish you good luck in finding people to play this way. It will need some chat.