is a rematch in <=3 min games good sportsmanship?

Hi

i try to be a kind member of this great site. When i loose a game, especially when my oppent is just lucky due to a simple overlook by me, I often ask for a Rematch. When they decline i call them what they are: a "coward". I think it is poor sportsmanship to decline a rematch if the looser asks for especially in this short time controls. To see these guys run away and play the next games frustates me.

Recently i got a message from Lichess for "aggressivly asking for rematch". What do You think. Am i really agressive?

I have also another question. Does the looser asks for revenge and the opportunity to balance the score or does the winner generously offer rematch (and implicity saying: i'll beat you easily agian)? What is your understandig of chess etiquette?

Kind regards
hirnschlacke

@hirnschlacke i think the only coward here is you

I usually decline rematches because i play one game and move ahead

It's not nessasary to keep the score balanced, if you lose and don't get a rematch move ahead and defeat others instead of complaining

#1 It is peoples moral and legal right to ask for, accept, decline, and ignore rematch requests.
It is not 'bad sportsmanship' nor 'coward-ness'(I mean, it might be coward-ness sometimes, but it might also be them just making a smart decision, maybe you are higher rated and lost because you are tired? Or maybe they don't want to play multiple games against the same person? ETC).
#2 Calling someone a 'coward' is(to my knowledge) breaking the rules which state '❌ “is ... a cheater?”, “...is an idiot”, “...is a noob, "...is a loser”'. Calling someone a 'coward' is aggressive. Source: lichess.org/page/forum-etiquette.
#3 My personal understanding of chess etiquette is that if something is not against the rules, then it is acceptable. But rather something is acceptable or not is somewhat of a subjective matter.
#4 "especially when my oppent is just lucky due to a simple overlook by me" If you played in a way which allowed your opponent to win(Regardless of how well you played up until that point)and the opponent took advantage of that, then you deserve to lose. We don't care how well you might have played, we care about the final position on the board.
Just some thoughts.

Just because you lost an online game due to your own "simple overlook" doesn't mean the opponent has any obligation to accept rematch. And then calling them a coward doesn't help either, no one wants to play with a trash talker.

"To see these guys run away and play the next games frustrates me." You will find a lot of frustrating things in life, doesn't mean you can go around harassing people because of it.

You just lose some elo, its not like the opponent established utter dominance over you and can brag about it, so cool down a bit. Grandmasters have lost games due to misclick in major event and they respectfully accept the results instead of asking for rematch.

"Does the looser asks for revenge and the opportunity to balance the score or does the winner generously offer rematch (and implicitly saying: I'll beat you easily again)? What is your understanding of chess etiquette?"

None of those. If any one of the player wants a rematch they send a request and the other person decides if they wanna play. No hard and fast rules or chess etiquette that is to be followed here. No one has any obligation here.

It is amazing how some people can go on and detach rematch from etiquette.

@hirnschlacke contarly to what all people think, lucky wins are based on skill and the key art of not blundering. It’s the most important skill that even grandmasters haven’t learnt... well some anyway.

Yes Al are correct

One of the greatest inventions of our modern era is that you can play a quick blitz game while sitting on the toilet. Hell, one session simply doesnt take more than one game.

I only accept a rematch if I had mexican food the day before. In that case I have enough time for more than one game.

@hirnschlacke So basically you make up a code and get angry at people for not following the code you made up. That's what a lot of people do, amongst other criminals. "Oh, he looked at me in the wrong way so I blasted him in the head".

It's not a norm and even if it was a norm I wouldn't respect it because I don't respect you. I don't care about your morals or values and why should I? You don't care about mine, since you have already decided how I should behave.