@blunderman1 I hear you about the silver lining, I just needed to frame things in a positive or people get me trippin' ...for example, and partially for your amusement, I've been doing a little "research" on these matters playing bughouse today and had my teammate accuse me of cheating by letting my time run out (even though I still had 50%+ of my time and was in a complicated position....). Not sure when it started, was calculating when they distracted me with this chat, basically self-defeating us:
(i'm bulldozemcgee)
https://www.chess.com/game/live/73515096633
NEW GAME
*******(1365) and FM ***** (2582) vs. bulldozemcgee (1341) and ******** (1461) (3 min)
win +15 / draw +7 / lose -1
********: reported
bulldozemcgee: who is?
********: bulldose
bulldozemcgee: why?
********: he is losing this game on purpose
that is a form of cheating
so I reported him to chess.com
this game is over
bulldozemcgee: who's sand bagging?
********: cheating is against chess.com rules
bulldozemcgee: whose cheating?
********: and he lost this game on purpose bulldozemcgee is cheating
bulldozemcgee: you talkinga bout zyxon?
wtf?
********: when you lose a game on purpose ... that is a form of cheating
GAME OVER
Your partner lost on time. (3 min Rated)
Your new Doubles (Bughouse) rating is 1340 (-1).
Was ***** a good sport?
bulldozemcgee: how was i losing the game on purpose?
********: you sat for no reason
bulldozemcgee: wut? i was thinkin?
********: you let your clock run without moving
for no reason
bulldozemcgee: you started chatting about cheating and i got distracted
********: in a 3 min clock ... you cannot sit
bulldozemcgee: i was thinking move calculations
********: unless you are losing on purpose
please stop playing bughouse
bulldozemcgee: that's abilism too,
stop being paranoid
********: you lost on purpose
bulldozemcgee: making excuse to not play a t 2500
********: that is a form of cheating
you lost on purpose
that is a form of cheating
bulldozemcgee: wild. you literally self-defeated us with your paranoia
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As you can see I was literally clueless as to the nature of the accusation. They're accusing me of cheating-by-letting-time-run-out to sandbag my rating and I'm just trying to calculate the right move. Whatever, thanks for the venting but it does offer us some interesting insight with respect to this conversation..
@Toadofsky This got me wondering if there's a way to save people-hours on moderation through community self-moderation— through up and down voting of people's opponents/partners.
This is a pretty clear-cut example of how it could fail. I get downvoted when my partner sees me lost in calculations and thinks sandbagging but conversely if they're just a paranoid personality and always over-accusing it could create backlash from community votes get them shadowbanned.
(Sort of like the way chess dot com has "is ***** a good sport" but actually have it weighted to mean something...
Sorry, I'm mixing site-design and post-game venting, never a helpful combo but at this point it illustrates both the complexities of building something new and the utter theoretical necessity of the task itself.
@FischyVishy
The above is a good example of the way players drive away newbies. In this same gaming session, I got asked to "never play" from my partner after we WON because he didn't understand why i asked for two pawns in a row (here for reference: https://www.chess.com/game/live/73511985771 ..wanted them, for light-square exploits crazyhouse style. It was leading to a pretty strong position with possible mating options if I hadn't later mouseslipped a bishop with 22.B@f6 )
(no need to study the games to get my points, I'm just ranting in these regards ;p )
Conclusion: These are good examples of the kind of toxicity I was talking about. No surprises here. However, I'm still willing to say that this isn't about the game itself but about the people playing it. Maybe I'm even willing to double down and say bughouse is a game that, with the proper formatting, can even reduce toxicity and emotional violence in our society. Lofty goals here, spider, but what do we got to lose?
(question to moderators: is it still public shaming if i'm talking about players on another website?!)
@blunderman1 I hear you about the silver lining, I just needed to frame things in a positive or people get me trippin' ...for example, and partially for your amusement, I've been doing a little "research" on these matters playing bughouse today and had my teammate accuse me of cheating by letting my time run out (even though I still had 50%+ of my time and was in a complicated position....). Not sure when it started, was calculating when they distracted me with this chat, basically self-defeating us:
(i'm bulldozemcgee)
https://www.chess.com/game/live/73515096633
NEW GAME
*******(1365) and FM ***** (2582) vs. bulldozemcgee (1341) and ******** (1461) (3 min)
win +15 / draw +7 / lose -1
********: reported
bulldozemcgee: who is?
********: bulldose
bulldozemcgee: why?
********: he is losing this game on purpose
that is a form of cheating
so I reported him to chess.com
this game is over
bulldozemcgee: who's sand bagging?
********: cheating is against chess.com rules
bulldozemcgee: whose cheating?
********: and he lost this game on purpose bulldozemcgee is cheating
bulldozemcgee: you talkinga bout zyxon?
wtf?
********: when you lose a game on purpose ... that is a form of cheating
GAME OVER
Your partner lost on time. (3 min Rated)
Your new Doubles (Bughouse) rating is 1340 (-1).
Was ***** a good sport?
bulldozemcgee: how was i losing the game on purpose?
********: you sat for no reason
bulldozemcgee: wut? i was thinkin?
********: you let your clock run without moving
for no reason
bulldozemcgee: you started chatting about cheating and i got distracted
********: in a 3 min clock ... you cannot sit
bulldozemcgee: i was thinking move calculations
********: unless you are losing on purpose
please stop playing bughouse
bulldozemcgee: that's abilism too,
stop being paranoid
********: you lost on purpose
bulldozemcgee: making excuse to not play a t 2500
********: that is a form of cheating
you lost on purpose
that is a form of cheating
bulldozemcgee: wild. you literally self-defeated us with your paranoia
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As you can see I was literally clueless as to the nature of the accusation. They're accusing me of cheating-by-letting-time-run-out to sandbag my rating and I'm just trying to calculate the right move. Whatever, thanks for the venting but it does offer us some interesting insight with respect to this conversation..
@Toadofsky This got me wondering if there's a way to save people-hours on moderation through community self-moderation— through up and down voting of people's opponents/partners.
This is a pretty clear-cut example of how it could fail. I get downvoted when my partner sees me lost in calculations and thinks sandbagging but conversely if they're just a paranoid personality and always over-accusing it could create backlash from community votes get them shadowbanned.
(Sort of like the way chess dot com has "is ***** a good sport" but actually have it weighted to mean something...
Sorry, I'm mixing site-design and post-game venting, never a helpful combo but at this point it illustrates both the complexities of building something new and the utter theoretical necessity of the task itself.
@FischyVishy
The above is a good example of the way players drive away newbies. In this same gaming session, I got asked to "never play" from my partner after we WON because he didn't understand why i asked for two pawns in a row (here for reference: https://www.chess.com/game/live/73511985771 ..wanted them, for light-square exploits crazyhouse style. It was leading to a pretty strong position with possible mating options if I hadn't later mouseslipped a bishop with 22.B@f6 )
(no need to study the games to get my points, I'm just ranting in these regards ;p )
Conclusion: These are good examples of the kind of toxicity I was talking about. No surprises here. However, I'm still willing to say that this isn't about the game itself but about the people playing it. Maybe I'm even willing to double down and say bughouse is a game that, with the proper formatting, can even reduce toxicity and emotional violence in our society. Lofty goals here, spider, but what do we got to lose?
(question to moderators: is it still public shaming if i'm talking about players on another website?!)