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But in contrast, one of the person i respect the most is my sister and only just only for her, my sorry doesn't mean much. I think its out of so much affection and love from her to me and mine to her.
But does i call that love? Is that really love and respect for her?
Siblings have a strong bond of connection between them. No matter how much your bro/sis trash talks you, they never forget you.

@JASKIRATSINGH said in #13: > But in contrast, one of the person i respect the most is my sister and only just only for her, my sorry doesn't mean much. I think its out of so much affection and love from her to me and mine to her. > But does i call that love? Is that really love and respect for her? Siblings have a strong bond of connection between them. No matter how much your bro/sis trash talks you, they never forget you.

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@ronin3b said in #3:

A copy/paste (is it allowed?) but still relevant :

“There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence He said, "You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won't matter how many times you say I'm sorry, the wound is still there.” A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one.

Ohhh I know this story too, it represents really well this thing with ,,sorry". I mean you're forgiven, but you still have the experience, the trauma. But in a fight, in my opinion, the first person to say ,,sorry" has won. It's still a matter of courage to say this one word, a word that could change a relationship. It's not good to be mad at someone untill sunrise, in fact it's terrible, from what I learned as well. But the person who says ,,sorry" first has defeated all of the negativity.

@ronin3b said in #3: > A copy/paste (is it allowed?) but still relevant : > > “There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence He said, "You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won't matter how many times you say I'm sorry, the wound is still there.” A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one. Ohhh I know this story too, it represents really well this thing with ,,sorry". I mean you're forgiven, but you still have the experience, the trauma. But in a fight, in my opinion, the first person to say ,,sorry" has won. It's still a matter of courage to say this one word, a word that could change a relationship. It's not good to be mad at someone untill sunrise, in fact it's terrible, from what I learned as well. But the person who says ,,sorry" first has defeated all of the negativity.