takebacks are fine for............. dumb moves?

apparently. i almost NEVER get asked for a takeback on mouse slips. it's almost always on a dumb move, and within a couple seconds of said dumb move. so ------- now it's cool to go, 'my bad, i'll take a takeback?' i generally ignore them. i had thought takebacks were for mouse slips, obvious weird accidents. but that's just me, apparently.

What is a takeback? Where can I find it in the FIDE rules?

This is why I disabled them.
I used to allow it. (Mouse/hand slip/ or obvious blunders)
But people misuse it, and I found myself to kind to refuse it. So I have disabled the possibility.
(BTW you can disable it, in the functions in your settings)

Edited: #3 You can't find it in FIDA rule book. But FIDA to my knowledge don't allow online games.
Physical game Vs online game... Move mistakes can happen in an online game, especially by touchscreen. (Happened to me twice in my 200+ games, but in both games, I was in a loosing position, one of which I tried the position with a 3th party in a casual correspondence game, because i wasn't sure if it could have been a draw... It couldn't)
For me takeback is a honourable gesture, but misused by "some" players.

Is there a way to play with a confirm move option? I am surprised that in the daily games they have this option but not in the rapid games. You have all the time in the world to think about a move in daily games but in rapid you have to move quicker. I understand some people wouldn't want to double click but it would allow us to see the position. All you have to do is add 3-5 more seconds to the time control increment and it makes sure the move you are thinking initially is what you really want to play. I can understand visual problems.

As soon as you plunk the piece down you see the mistake you made, but you can't do anything about it. I am not saying it should be done in tournaments or the end all. It's just a training approach I think people would benefit from. Later when your visual acuity improves you turn this confirm move option off. If your opponent doesn't want to use the confirm option then that is fine. They would get more time to make moves then. Seems like a win win situation.

In rated games, I never give takebacks, but I usually give them in casual games. It's hard to judge mouse slips vs. blunders anyways, so I just avoid them in rated games. Rated games are "official" games of sorts, so there is no reason to ask for an "undo", since you can't ask for one in real life.

People will ask for takebacks for mistakes and get mad if you don't accept them, but just ignore them. It's their fault for playing a blunder, and they will either learn from their mistakes or hope for a takeback, then get mad and not improve.

Chess, at least rated games, should be like life in general: you shouldn't have the option of takebacks. (At least, not until a time machine is invented.)

By the way, @tigerprowl you can add the move confirmation option to all of your games by going into your "preferences" menu, click "game behavior", scroll down to "move confirmation" and select "always"

Well, good or bad it is, but in games with reasonable players it's almost rule of thumb to allow mouseslip takebacks, which are easily identified by speed of takeback - it goes almost instantly after move (and they look really strange).
Some unusual exceptions:
- when takeback is offered to opponent who had winning move but made losing or boring one.
- when game is 2+0 or faster and mouseslips are part of game, no tackebacks allowed
That's bottom line of reasonable takebacks.

Below this all the trash happens, like takebacks spam, takebacks like"oh wait, this actually was bad move", takebacks in lost positions to delay game etc etc.

I stopped offering takebacks a long time ago and am much happier for it. I will usually offer draws to players if they make an obvious mouse slip (e.g. moving the king instead of castling).

@LaserGuy offering a draw seems possibly reasonable..... i was just surprised ive been seeing a lot of takeback requests just on dumb moves ------- not a slip or anything.... i don't think these were all 'new' players, either.......but really don't know. just seemed to be a 'thing' people were expecting..........

Guys, the greatest secret for lightening fast improvement it's to ask for takebacks no matter what. Always ask for takebacks and search for situations where takebacks are possible. It helps you allot by providing multiple chances of blundering at any time, regardless of positions, openings, pawn structures, phase of the game, etc. Basically it's something like playing multiple games in the same time. Every single takeback is just another game, and the more you play the better you understand the great mystery.
Good luck!