The Power of Fear and How to Use It as Motivation

@TurtleMat said in #8:
> Your point has nothing to do with your story. This whole post adds nothing to the Mandela quote, the rest is just hot air.
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> "That was THE day and THE moment that I realized if I continued having just fun and never worked hard, I’d end up like that man [poor taxi driver working 20+ hours shifts to feed their family] ."
> Still framing the poor as lazy. Which is an ignorant and dangerous take. Not mentioning really insulting to this particular taxi driver.
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> Go read some sociology. At this point, many people have told you how what you write contradicts scientific facts and basic decency, you have had the opportunity to educate yourself. Yet you didn't.
> You are doing harm. And you cann't claim that you haven't been warned.
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> Gonna repeat it here for the youngest of your readers :
> - the world is complex, and there are a lot of factors you cann't control between you and your goals. Try hard to reach your goals, that's noble. But don't forget that there are obstacles bigger than you, me, or any of your idols, and not succeeding doesn't mean that you are weak, lazy, or inadequate.
> - dedicating all your resources to one task is not always positive. Excellence at chess might be a shiny goal, but "having just fun" is really important for psychological stability, resilience, and social skills. things that you use 24/7 your whole life.
> - using ones fear as motivation can sometimes work. but not always. Just having an emotion is fine. you don't need to transform your emotions into productivity.
dude actually worked hard to prove his point, i see. nice analysis but i think that avetik was talking about some people, and not all,

@MBurns2020 said in #11:
> dude actually worked hard to prove his point, i see. nice analysis but i think that avetik was talking about some people, and not all,

I think my point stands for this blog post taken alone, even though I agree it's not one of the worst.

But taking into consideration the contents of avetiks almost weekely blogs (context), I think my point is really strong.

Of course, fear can be a motivator, but is it the right motivator, as the author of the article writes here?

In my opinion, the fear of a life you don't want to lead is definitely an incentive to make a special effort. But how good can you become in your job, your sport or in something you are committed to if it is not fear that drives you, but the joy of doing what you want to become?

The possibility of growing, in whatever matter, should not be measured by fear, but by the joy and fun you have while doing it. The inner "why" should not be driven by fear!

Do you remember the movie "Monsters, Inc." where the monsters tried to get energy for their world to live by scaring little children to death as monsters? At the end of the movie, it was joy that released the most energy for the world of monsters when they made the children laugh. Don't let fear drive you, but think of the joyful things life can give you if you dedicate yourself to something with joy, which is your greatest happiness.

Why am I so sure of myself that I am writing this? I work as a sports mental coach for golf and chess and have been looking after the participants in my courses for many years and not one of them has become as good as they are today because they were afraid of doing what had to be done, but because they enjoyed doing it, and it was their deepest "why" to become who they wanted to be, with a smile on their face.

main point being guessed to make sense in my eyes.

Using fear as attention engagment, to link to our internal evaluatnoi model in evolution**.
In the same way, projectinig some anima into the things on board, bring attention to their likes and dislikes, embodying the internalized rules of motions (real rules I mean, not "principles").

The problem now becomes still of seeing and evaluating. The basis of fear. But sure if the proportionality of fear to signal and its evaluation is part of the learning theory as individual thing to ask the game experience and use consequenecs as reinforcnment (signed) feedback. maybe they can go rational-emotive learning on their chess behavior.

Using emotions in cognition, would not be the first time. Only here not hidden. We just need to be still rational about it..

The males among us might have extra work to do their, from their congenital birth context. We start a bit startled... And then some people get to make this a superior value, and sometimes we get stuck in their, until a wall of reality starting crumbling on us..

Very specific analogy.. hmm.. anyway. I did not see the main point yet. but if rational as above. I think it might already be happening subconsciously. making it conscious might be a good point.. Since I am lazy reader of lectures, maybe someone can correct me.. Did I guess right in some way?

** moved rambling about what else might be in internal model under evolution.

@goodplayerpranav I really want nothing bad to you, but (1) Gothamchess is way far from being ,,THE GOAT'' like you named him. (2) you had 400 which is (if i am honest) very low and now you have 1400. Rather it is an improvement you cant say from your little experience that Gothamchess is the GOAT. (3) The Lichess Glicko-2-Rating is NOT the ELO. You can only have a ELO if you are part of the FIDE and if you have played a fide-rated tournament. Regards, @The_Eruptodon

It's a very good article. Keep up the good work!

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@The_Eruptodon said in #15:
> @goodplayerpranav I really want nothing bad to you, but (1) Gothamchess is way far from being ,,THE GOAT'' like you named him. (2) you had 400 which is (if i am honest) very low and now you have 1400. Rather it is an improvement you cant say from your little experience that Gothamchess is the GOAT. (3) The Lichess Glicko-2-Rating is NOT the ELO. You can only have a ELO if you are part of the FIDE and if you have played a fide-rated tournament. Regards, @The_Eruptodon

Ok first of all, You need to have 2 points against a fide-rated, 1.5 works too. also you need to play against atleast 5 rateds and then hope that your performance rating was above 1400(according to new fide rules)
(maybe even 1 point, but that is if you have already beat one rated in the same month in another fide-rated tournament or if that rated is a strong rated[1600/1570 types])

Ayrton Senna always told that "fear is what keeps me alive. without fear, I would smash the wall after the first corner". Moreover, fear might be confused with pressure, which is a common thing among high performance players in any sport, including chess (see the very poor performances of Ding Liren recently). On that matter, I recall Billie Jean King saying "pressure is a privilege, because if you feel pressure, then you are good and people expect great things from you. If you don't feel pressure, then you have a long way until people will expect those great things from you yet."

@Avetik_ChessMood thank u, you are the best