@mkubecek said in #34:
> The problem is that perception what qualifies as "gently" or "friendly" may differ a lot.
Fair enough.
@coledavis said in #37:
> @forsoothplays in #31
> What is wrong with 'gently' and 'friendly'? They are superficially disguising the intimidation. It's a bit like, "Can I show you the door?"
...and case in point, I suppose.
However, I think you guys are missing some context. In the first place, I qualified this behavior in response to *intentional stalling.* “But how could you possibly discern that your opponent is intentionally stalling?” you may ask. (How do you know your opponent is trying to intimidate you and not just teasing?)
This is the other piece of context I failed to mention: when I talk about intentional stalling, I am only talking about *daily* chess games where intentional stalling is usually obvious, and unambiguously distinct from playing the position out. Moreover, it’s a genuine problem of malicious trolling that is obnoxiously common. And, unlike “stalling” in a live chess game, it is not innocuous because a staller can force a game to continue for up to a year or more after the position has been lost—depending on the allowances for vacation time and how many days are allowed for a move. I do not understand why you would want to protect the feelings of someone who is trolling his opponent maliciously because he might take a little tough love the wrong way. This is incongruous with the regular ethics of internet space (i.e. malicious trolling deserves non-malicious trolling in turn).
Lastly, you seem to think I am trying to give myself and others license to harass players at whim if the latter do not resign. In fact the qualifications I placed on such behavior scarcely recommend it as a normal reaction to players not resigning. For that matter, I scarcely made an allowance for it *at all.*
> The problem is that perception what qualifies as "gently" or "friendly" may differ a lot.
Fair enough.
@coledavis said in #37:
> @forsoothplays in #31
> What is wrong with 'gently' and 'friendly'? They are superficially disguising the intimidation. It's a bit like, "Can I show you the door?"
...and case in point, I suppose.
However, I think you guys are missing some context. In the first place, I qualified this behavior in response to *intentional stalling.* “But how could you possibly discern that your opponent is intentionally stalling?” you may ask. (How do you know your opponent is trying to intimidate you and not just teasing?)
This is the other piece of context I failed to mention: when I talk about intentional stalling, I am only talking about *daily* chess games where intentional stalling is usually obvious, and unambiguously distinct from playing the position out. Moreover, it’s a genuine problem of malicious trolling that is obnoxiously common. And, unlike “stalling” in a live chess game, it is not innocuous because a staller can force a game to continue for up to a year or more after the position has been lost—depending on the allowances for vacation time and how many days are allowed for a move. I do not understand why you would want to protect the feelings of someone who is trolling his opponent maliciously because he might take a little tough love the wrong way. This is incongruous with the regular ethics of internet space (i.e. malicious trolling deserves non-malicious trolling in turn).
Lastly, you seem to think I am trying to give myself and others license to harass players at whim if the latter do not resign. In fact the qualifications I placed on such behavior scarcely recommend it as a normal reaction to players not resigning. For that matter, I scarcely made an allowance for it *at all.*