Advice? He is with his friend, they are both mean jerks and won't leave me alone. They call me a wimp, an idiot, a nobody, a coward. They would sometimes throw rocks at me and stuff. Not fun.
Here's the story:
My girlfriend and him broke up like a year ago because they were both trying to dominate each other and compete (my girlfriend loves to be the leader). It turned into a battle field because they were fighting left and right. Now her ex boyfriend will not leave me alone! He bullies me and makes fun of me every time he sees me. What should I do?
I am a feminine, shy, quiet guy and I just can't stand up for myself. Should I tell my girlfriend maybe? I mean, she always stands up for me when I'm bullied, but this is happening behind her back.
PS. She is super masculine (confident, brave, strong, leader, alpha type).
it means her last boyfriend still has feelings for your girlfriend. And you as the man should be in charge and if the girl doesn't agree, I advise you to break up. Girls with a dictatorial nature are... they're hard to have a relationship with. Leave the girl and the boys.
You should tell your gf about the matter. She being strong and confident will handle her ex easily. Don't worry.
@Akbar2thegreat said in #3:
> You should tell your gf about the matter. She being strong and confident will handle her ex easily. Don't worry.
Thanks. I will.
@Aoza said in #2:
> it means her last boyfriend still has feelings for your girlfriend. And you as the man should be in charge and if the girl doesn't agree, I advise you to break up. Girls with a dictatorial nature are... they're hard to have a relationship with. Leave the girl and the boys.
The 1950s are over. The dude doesn't have to be in charge today and I think it's awesome because I hate to be in control. And please note that even though my girlfriend has a dictional nature, it was never hard. It's actually really fun and every day with her is special. She knows what she wants and goes for it and I think it's really cool. Ever heard of Female Lead Relationships (FLRs)? If not, I highly suggest you educate yourself on those cuz they are becoming more popular and more common these days.
@Chessmates4ever said in #1:
> Advice? He is with his friend, they are both mean jerks and won't leave me alone. They call me a wimp, an idiot, a nobody, a coward. They would sometimes throw rocks at me and stuff. Not fun.
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> Here's the story:
> My girlfriend and him broke up like a year ago because they were both trying to dominate each other and compete (my girlfriend loves to be the leader). It turned into a battle field because they were fighting left and right. Now her ex boyfriend will not leave me alone! He bullies me and makes fun of me every time he sees me. What should I do?
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> I am a feminine, shy, quiet guy and I just can't stand up for myself. Should I tell my girlfriend maybe? I mean, she always stands up for me when I'm bullied, but this is happening behind her back.
>
> PS. She is super masculine (confident, brave, strong, leader, alpha type).
Sorry ,can't give any advice. I don't have any dating experience lol.
@TimeTraveller1 said in #6:
> Sorry ,can't give any advice. I don't have any dating experience lol.
There's no rush, so no worries at all
@TimeTraveller1 said in #6:
> Sorry ,can't give any advice. I don't have any dating experience lol.
Sheesh great advice. You should really be my therapist or something :)
@Syunny said in #8:
> Sheesh great advice. You should really be my therapist or something :)
Depends on how much you will pay me
Few(er) things are scarier for most people than a Lawyer...
I am not necessarily saying that you should gather evidence (such as capturing their acts on film or security/hidden-cameras), nor that you should necessarily learn about anti-harassment law(s), nor that you should necessarily learn how to file any criminal-complaints, nor that any written-and-then-filed criminal-complaints should necessarily describe being on the receiving end of rock-throwing as attempted murder, nor am I necessarily suggesting that you keep detailed records of any and all «violations» that disturb your ability to live in peace... especially if the girlfriend is going to (be able to) do all this for you anyway.
(Another option is getting a best friend, one who is really tough, and, can fight off many people at once, who is willing to be like a body-guard for the both of you; even better yet, gain control over a whole entire mafia or similar, then, this one thing I knew some people doing back in the day, they told their rich cousins about the situation, because of their brother being bullied, who decided to rent a large black limousine one day; anyway, a group of them all put on the same dark sun-glasses and black trench-coats, drove up to the house of the bullies one day, stepping out of the car, then, asking them if they were the ones who went by the mentioned names, followed by «informing» them that they heard that they had been «bullying» one of their cousins, and, that, they should stop bullying him if they didn't want any trouble, very «politely» [perhaps something like Al Capone] telling them, that they were going to «agree» to this, weren't they...? Then they all got back into the limousine and drove off; from that day onwards the little brother was never bullied by them again according to what was described to me by his siblings)...
