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Who else has anxiety and cannot sleep at night?

Probably THE easiest thing to fix. My ex had this, and basically the cure takes about a week at most. Simply stop caffeine, all of it, permanently. No black or green tea, no coffee obviously, no chocolate, no energy drinks. Turn off the idiot box (TV), no computer before bed, limit computer time to 5 minutes daily checking mail, take out all sugar and processed food from your diet. Reduce carbs, increase protein. Increase omega 3 fats. Exercise 5x weekly, 3x weekly weights, 2x cardio. Make sure sleeping room is dark, good mattress, Good countered pillow, don’t get stressed over irrelevant or any other things in life, since getting stressed over it does NOT help resolve the issue you were stressed about in the first place. No alcohol, prescription or recreational drugs, or smoking. Use herbs and other supplements known to calm you (Chamomile, valerian etc.) You can buy calming formulas, and drink calming teas. Listen to Bach and Chopin, not modern garbage music. Read a classic book instead of watching some idiotic Hollywood movie. Success is 100% guaranteed.

@Kusokosla

lol. I don't use caffeine, i'm not a fan of anything sugary (chocolate, energy drinks), I don't own a tv, i've taken periods of time completely away from technology, I've tried every type of diet you can imagine, i've exercised every regimen you can imagine (fitness trainers, weight lifting [strongman, madcow, skull, russian style], running [5km, 15km, and just casual], swimming, sports). I have black out curtains with a solar clock to match circadian rhythm, and do optimal entrainment to the sun throughout the day . No alcohol, no recreational drugs, no smoking, and I've tried prescription medication (which do help me sleep, but then I feel like a zombie every day instead), and medications that make me hyper alert early in the day (I've tried modafinil, adderall, ritalin). I've used all the standard herbs to increase relevant neurotransmitters. tried every music type, and definitely rain sound tracks work best for me. I also really enjoy reading, and rarely watch movies.

"Probably THE easiest thing to fix" and "Success is 100% guaranteed" just seem really rude to me, and disingenuous, although I'm sure that is not your intention - it's just that you're trivialising a struggle I've been trying to solve for over 20 years - although I'll agree your advice works for other people (hence why I hear these suggestions all the time from people who also trivialise my situation) [also you always hear, make sure you drink 2L or 3L or 5L of water, and make sure you have your final meal at least 5 hours or 7 hours before bed. Make sure you do literally nothing in bed except for sleeping, so as to make sleeping a habit. If you are still awake in bed after 15 minutes, get up and do something passive, like reading a book, or going for a slow walk. Make sure to lower your core body temperature before getting into bed, as this is associated with beginning to fall asleep. Make sure the air quality in your room is good. Make sure you get up and go to bed at exactly the same time each day to make it routine. Make sure you've used the toilet before getting into bed. Meditation helps sleep. Yoga helps sleep. Try polyphasic sleep routines. yada yada ad infinitum]

Sincerely,
Australian who has been awake since Tuesday (It's 11:33am on Friday as I write this edit)

if i sound triggered, it's because i am lol. everyone i meet who have no sleep problems act like they're an expert in dealing with sleep problems - and that their lack of sleep problems is due to some knowledge they have, or better sleep practices [imagine my amusement/frustration getting sleep advice from someone i know irl, who says a coffee before bed helps them sleep]

My advice, friend, refuse to sleep during the day until you drop dead at the desired time from simple exhaustion.

Do this and repeat enough times, your brain will get the message.

Take-away from Kusokosla's msg above: a little discipline goes a long way.

Some day your body has to shut down. Inevitably. Or you die, and get rid of the problem that way. Sometimes, adding to the drop-dead-from-exhaustion approach a daily rutione of scheduled activities that you don't think about before doing (water plants at 8:15, sweep floor at 7:45, etc) helps it work faster and more solidly.

Cheers, from a fellow earstwhile insomniac.

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