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How do you keep from being humiliated after losing a game and just dropping chess altogether?

#1
Short story: The first time I tried to play was when I was 10. I played an adult and lost in a fool's mate. 2 moves... game over. I never felt so stupid in my life. And to this day, it haunts me.
I want to play games but I am forever unable to forget how absolutely foolish I felt after losing that game. And to this day, I believe it keeps me from engaging fully in learning how to play.
I try but it just does not feel right... like I just don't belong to this game.
So.... how do you recover from this?
#2
Watch the queens gambit, everyone loses to fools (scholars mate) at some point when first learning. It's totally normal . get back on the horse. And don't fall (fool) for it again . It's normal don't worry , last game of the month I think a titled player fell for it , happens to everyone , don't worry xxx it teaches you to be humble in chess , everyone loses even Magnus
#3
@Juuuustout said in #1:
> Short story: The first time I tried to play was when I was 10. I played an adult and lost in a fool's mate. 2 moves... game over. I never felt so stupid in my life. And to this day, it haunts me.
> I want to play games but I am forever unable to forget how absolutely foolish I felt after losing that game. And to this day, I believe it keeps me from engaging fully in learning how to play.
> I try but it just does not feel right... like I just don't belong to this game.
> So.... how do you recover from this?

just accept mentally the defeat. it's the best way to get around the obstacle, it's to "drink the obstacle" (like the Michelin guy !). it's simple, if you mentally accept defeat, you also 'win' mentally, since you prove that you are strong enough to no longer think about a result and the numbers of the rating. if you learn that you have lost a game, you smile and say: "ok, that was a good match! so, let's see what's wrong and move forward!" you are stuck because you believe that defeat is bad, humiliating, and hellish. defeat is the natural opposite of victory, defeat is a way of learning, a force to overcome, a positive imperfection that makes the game come alive.
#4
nothing bad happens when you lose in chess (at least if you're not playing professionally). So think of a loss as a chance to learn where you need to improve. If the fool's mate loss haunts you, i suggest facing your fear by learning to destroy opponent's who try it on you. It's pretty easy. They neglect development and bring out the queen early.
#6
Probably every super GM lost in under 7 moves at least once since reaching Master. If not they sure did when younger.

Chess isn't about always being perfect.
It's about getting back up and learning.

And scoring babes usually ones that could care less about chess.
#8
@Juuuustout said in #1:

> So.... how do you recover from this?

We've all had a stupid checkmate. Even after a long time, maybe a 2-move checkmate doesn't happen but still badly lost games, which make you feel like an idiot. It's part of the game.
If you can't get over it, chess will always be a constant frustration ( and in that case, it would be better to devote yourself to other pastimes, because it's not really worth ruining your liver for insignificant things like a defeat at chess ).
Have fun.
#9
"... most people do not like to lose games, and take defeat badly. This is not right. People who want to improve should take their defeats as lessons, and endeavour to learn what to avoid in the future. ..." - Capablanca
#10
@Juuuustout I lost to the fools mate once as a 7 year old. I then proceeded to beat all the other 7 year olds who didn’t know it with the fools mate. I suggest you do the same. As an 800 you might run into some fools.

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