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Why You Should Never Offer A Draw

I don't send draw offers and have never received one where the opponent is in a better position.

Tthere are two main reasons I get draw offers online

1. one offer soon after a game starts where both players are roughly equal

I usually take these. Maybe the other player has other things to do, maybe they don't like the opening. A 20 minute game is a committment

2. a bunch of offers after the opponent is obnoxiously lost

That's annoying as hell and it throws me off my game, but not to the extent that I won't finish the job.
@iHomba #58:
Thank you for your reply. Unfortunately, it seems that you misunderstood my arguments.
To begin with, you claim that "Your platitude that a tactical draw offer (and what draw offer is NOT tactical?) is "generally considered unfair among experienced players" is unsupportable nonsense."
I have never claimed that a tactical draw offer would be generally considered unfair among experience players.
I claim that a draw offer in a hopeless situation isn't forbidden but is generally considered unfair among experienced players, as one shouldn't intentionally distract the opponent in such a way. Not everything what is legal is fine. If you do not like the worlds "considered unfair", they can be replaced by "unwelcome".
By mentioning a hopeless situation (rather than a hopeless position), I also took account of the clock. I agree that the case which you described in #55 is not a hopeless situation at some level, but offering draw in bad positions is also considered unfair unless there are some special reasons, like that your opponent is much weaker, has very little time left (without increment) or that a draw is enough for them to win a tournament or to fulfill other goal.
I do not claim a moral superiority. I just claimed that it is generally considered unfair among experienced players. If you play over the board and keep offering draws in bad positions, the opponents probably will not like that, a few of them might tell you that it is wrong and most of the others would agree. It is not about my moral views, I just described the situation and the prevailing opinion. (True, the world is big and it is possible that some chess communities consisting of experienced players might view that differently.)
I have never denied the importance of psychology in chess, but it is not about offering draws in poor positions. Alekhine thoroughly studied Capablanca's games before their match to find his weaknesses (overconfidence, laziness and occasional superficiality) and to exploit them in the match, choosing the right match strategy, shocking the opponent with a few wins and then using all his skills to overcome an extremely strong opponent who had not been ready for such a turn of the events. Tal often willingly played moves which were objectively not so good, but which led to positions where he felt better than the opponents, who would feel uncomfortable there. Both Alekhine and Tal (as well as other top players) used their fame to feel the opponents insecure and playing below their usual strength.
Well, Alekhine once offered a draw to Euwe in a hopeless situation in the last game of their first WCh match, but Euwe had informed him before the game that he would accept a draw at any moment, as it would secure him the champion title. Many stories testify that Tal was a true chess gentleman.
As for the game which I quoted in #56, I have played over 6000 online games and this was the only one where a titled player repeatedly offered me a draw in a hopeless position. You can imagine that I did not like it. That said, it is possible that the player knows that it is generally unwelcome among experienced players, yet sees that differently. Or maybe he simply disliked the fact that I played anonymously whereas he did not, and found such draw offers appropriate in that case. I do not know.
I support the post's core message, although the raw sentence as it's written is a bit extreme. For a long time now, I've adopted an informal rule that a former coach told us he followed himself: No draw by mutual agreement before move 40. After all, there definitely are many endgames out there where a draw by mutual agreement is more than justified. But if you force yourself to always reach at least the first time control, there's definitely been some battle in the game.

That being said, there are certain exceptions e.g. in team matches. Last week, I had an absolutely lost position in a team match. But I noticed that my opponent was struggling in converting the clear advantage. When he spent a lot of time at a certain point and kept shaking his head, I made a draw offer which he accepted after a few seconds. We won the match by the narrowest margin. So here I have absolutely no regrets for going down this path.
Okay but hear me out, okay? A few days ago, I accidentally clicked on a game. Since I actually wanted to exit Lichess instead of clicking on the game, I offered a draw. My opponent declined and so I had to sit through the entire game even though I was in the middle of an online lesson.
Ahem, how come the most usual situation when offering a draw, i.e. "The position is completely equal and neither side has a clear plan for an advantage" is not even mentioned at all?
I usually offer a draw when I think the position is a draw and I am low on time.
If I am playing against a stronger opponent I may play haveing a draw in mind, but it would make no sense to offer a draw in a position I am better.
@SD_2709 said in #2:
> Great post but if I had a winning position against someone who's a lot higher rated than me I still don't know if I would have the courage to decline a draw offer..

Yea me too. I never offered a draw but if I am losing and they offer a draw of course I'll take it!
@alwayschessing101 said in #64:
> Okay but hear me out, okay? A few days ago, I accidentally clicked on a game. Since I actually wanted to exit Lichess instead of clicking on the game, I offered a draw. My opponent declined and so I had to sit through the entire game even though I was in the middle of an online lesson.
You could have aborted it.
The problem with absolutes like "never" is, that it creates these annoying people, that continue to play e.g. a rook vs rook endgame in a 3+2 blitz game (yes, this happened several times).