I have lost a game as a consequence of premove. I have done 2 different premoves for 2 different moves of the opponent.
This seems to be not possible. Is it right, that you can make only one premove? How are some players so fast in bullet games? And I often habe problems with mouse slips! I am very angry, if I lose a game by this!
a game is not a fatal battle, it is an exercise. to master a single opening you will have to repeat it dozens of times, and the same for every development you can imagine, it matters if you lose, it is only a small step more towards your goal
To deal with my losses, I kidnap and kill passersby, and offer their cold, dead, broken bodies as a sacrifice to the gods of chess Steve, Rachel, Jeff and the One who has no Name, known only as They Who Walk Between The Tables
Deal with losses? Get something to eat, watch sitcom, hangout with friends, then after ur tired, go to sleep. Tomorrow will be a different day with clear mind
'I planned to only play against better opponents than myself...'
I wish all would follow suit, it would be hilarious when everyone seeks and nobody plays.
On a more serious note, I can't answer your questions, if your body tells you this sucks, then it sucks.
You should only ignore it and push through if you are investing in you loss and there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
I tell kids (and myself) that there are only Wins and Learnings. Or Wins and Lessons.
I also tell them that the Opponents honors both you and the game when they win. Why? Because it helps us to get better and improve. But only if we have the character and emotional make-up to learn from losses that we are emotionally invested in.
@jomega thank you for your long text! <3
"If one spends a lot of time [...] studying chess, [...] You also can feel like you are doing something wrong in your thinking, but you don't know what it is or how to fix it."
That just nails it. I spend a lot of time studying and playing chess and it is frustrating to not know why I sometimes fail. But there is something even worse. Knowing the rules and seeing how I didn't follow them in my own games.
There was a great example where I had the bishop pair and my opponent had 2 knights. I was way to focused about the center and possible connected central pawns of my opponent. I played f4 and my opponent later responded with f5. Suddenly both of my bishops were bad, because the position became a closed one. I know what I've done wrong, because I studied a lot. But I still made that move. And I cannot understand why I did it. In the same game I made a sacrifice in the end, knowing it is bad, just hoping he wouldn't find the best moves. Why do I play f*king hope chess`? I told myself 1000 times that this is not the way to play chess but still I keep doing it. Same goes for moving one piece twice in the opening, mainly the knight to g5. I still repeat those mistakes over and over and over again. I just don't stop doing it, although I know it is wrong/dangerous doing those moves.
And losing a won game is even more frustrating, actually that was the one that made me really upset. My concentration dropped and the time ran out - I should just appreciate what I learned from that game but I can't. It hurts to have +4 end up losing.
@BlackSalt ci.memecdn.com/9261716.jpg That was my first impulse, you should give and take and play lower rated players as well.. But I understand that you want to reach your own quickly reachable level quickly (maybe then share more with lower rated players).
Why would losing hurt: freedoms of where to move taken, limits of own knowledge and/or creativity hit, smaller standing in our circles of chess people and non-chess people = community?
But you can reset the pieces, it was only an exercice! You may have learned more and be more inspired to meet your confident opponent again! Your dear circles are meant to be supportive, they turn out to be!
In tic-tac-toe there is no championships. In chess you will always find limits, and if not, your improvement will limit you elsewhere, and if not, you will die like everybody but leave quite a vacuum, and if not, we have you as an incredible example what can be achieved, you leave us a language.
It turns out the exercice is always at the same time the real deal, and losing your freedom on the board always hurts as it should. We are, as long as we are playing, exercising freedom, on the boards, but hopefully effectively jumping the edges of the boards with it, too.
The losers and the winners take away the winning move. If the losers knew it, and 'should have known', now they double should know in the future. If winners found on the board what losers knew, who did learn more and is more inspired? Losing is soothed by learning, but learning isn't done by losing. If losing demanded healing it'd ask us to pick up the winning moves, while the winners might forget about it, thinking they can make it up any time again.
So you can lose and lose as long as, during new losses, you can produce the learning effects, which heals.
Our social circles are supportive of our chess engagement if our chess helps, and to a sufficient degree. Learning to use our shared freedom in chess, containing learning losing in chess does, I guess.
It's better to play players of around similar strength to you because 1: If you play much much stronger players there are often subtle inaccuracies that you won't pick up on and exploit. A good way to think of it is if a complete noob decided to only every play against full strength Stockfish 11 he would ever really improve from that alone. He'd lose every single time ever and there would be no mistakes for him to exploit so then when he faced a human he wouldn't be prepared to exploit their mistakes. It also is bad to play against much stronger players/computers because when you lose game after game and get into the mindset of "Im going to lose this game" before it even starts it just destroys your mentality and ruins your performance. Personally I think you shouldnt consistently play against any person or computer rated 200 points above you. If you're 2050 rapid but think you may be closer to 1800 classical then just start playing a bunch of 1900-2000 rated classical players especially since there are sooo many classical player at about that range. Studies show that you learn best when you do things that are a bit challenging but still within reach.
@ungewichtet that was very well said. I spent a lot of time playing against 1600-1800 players, but I noticed most of my mistakes against lower rated players where due to low interest in winning those games - playing against 2100 players is exciting and I need this as motivation to wanting to win (beside improvement).
Also please read my last post, where I say the problem with losing for me is, that I don't understand why I keep making the same mistakes I already know about. It would be wonderful if I learned something new every game, but most of my games I just fail. I know why I failed. Because I did the same things again... there is not much to learn from it. Somehow Alphazero manages to learn from its mistakes, but humans don't :C or at least me..........
@SeniorPatzer "Wins and Lessons." yes!!! But how do I teach my brain that "0" means I gained something? School has told me for a decade that "0" means I gained nothing. Also in german "being a 0" means that you are "a nobody nobody likes" It is hard to rewire the brain in a way seeing 0 as something positive or even neutral.
@IntentionalBlunder "get into the mindset of "Im going to lose this game" before it even starts it just destroys your mentality and ruins your performance." Guilty. I even said it out loud and wrote it to others. Might have been a self fulfilling prophecy. Thanks for reminding me not to do that.