why do so many people

#14 nails it.

@TPP-Social What makes you think "people" haven't seen your overtones? Don't give up the hope so easily!

@laatikko Thanks. You're right. Pessimism doesn't help in life or chess.

To be honest, I think this whole conflict just mirrors the introvert vs. extrovert scale in real life.

On the introvert side, chess is more like meditation that one would rather not have disturbed by chitchat, on the extrovert side, it's more like an exchange of thoughts that one would rather continue for more than just until checkmate. Most people probably lie somewhere in between.

But we all have to live with our differences.
Don't get upset if your opponent leaves, don't get upset if they ask for a rematch.

I never go or ask for rematch. I follow real standard of reality fide tournament

@hisokaxhunter As I said before, it isn't match play and it isn't a tournament. It's their right to offer a rematch and your right to decline/ vice versa. FIDE does have an online chess playing site, but it's mostly for kids. I guess if I entered a tournament and was really impressed with a game (regardless of the result), I might hit them up later and see if they wanted to play some more. Then we would establish the terms of the match play, which could be as simple as 'until one of us doesn't feel like it anymore'.

@ProfDrHack I especially like that last line. It's just not worth getting upset over this game. I've seen people go on tilt in OTB tournaments even and lose like 200 Elo for it.

I have just played a beautiful series of moves to win the game and then my impudent opponent has the nerve to ask for a rematch? It's almost as if they haven't appreciated the elegant and aesthetic exhibition of my skill and don't want to spend the next half hour admiring and learning from it. I find it morally repugnant that they want to rematch me, as though nothing had been proven and that the demonstration of my expertise was a mere magic trick that they want to see again.

@Gyryth I think magic tricks only apply in Wizards Chess. That and butchering Jeremy Silman's compositions.

@gyryth, you are the unrecognized genius. I, also, have that desire to savor the previous game, especially after a clever satisfying win, but even sometimes to see what I did to lose so badly. Like van Gogh, the true beauty and value of our creations will only be appreciated by the general public after we are gone. Unlike van Gogh I am not going to shoot myself in a wheat field to hasten that day. It is not necessary to have a reason for refusing a rematch, but you articulated one of mine.

Its not about getting a rematch or revenge if I lose. Its about having a normal human interaction. This point was already made and i wholeheartedly agree. Now, I get the idea of playing a bunch of different people and "getting in a rhythm" but when 99.9% immediately leave after a game its just off putting to me. Like sometimes i got right back into quick pairing and the same person comes up again! When I play bullet I wanna play at least like 10 games with my opponent. I wish there was a way to set this kind of match in the lobby. That would solve everything. Because we all have different interests. I suspect there are some folks who feel the same way I do and would like to play more than one game.