I don’t really know what to do to support him.
How old is your friend?
I'm also depressed when I spend 90% of my time at home for two years because of Corona. I really do not know how you can help him. (Developed countries can return to normal much more easily.) to normal life faster than here.
One of the things that really makes me feel better is returning to a normal life.
One of the things that really makes me feel better is returning to a normal life.
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You will help him the most when he requires you to help him instead of helping him without him asking for the help.
If you can find a way that will make him ask -from his own will- for your help , then I believe that the first 50% of help was done , the other half is a matter of technicality.
You will help him the most when he requires you to help him instead of helping him without him asking for the help.
If you can find a way that will make him ask -from his own will- for your help , then I believe that the first 50% of help was done , the other half is a matter of technicality.
distraction , even in times where we are limited in gathering , call round pay them a visit , suggest a day in the park
make a day of it , prepare a picnic , or even a bbq , as gathering wood and making a campfire is really good (no green wood only dead as green wood dont burn well)
spend hours comparing which passer by is attractive ,
just take their mind of whatever is ailing them ,
and if they insist on talking about their depression then listen
a trouble shared is a trouble halved
dont let this person live in a box with the walls closing in , go out together and enjoy the world
make a day of it , prepare a picnic , or even a bbq , as gathering wood and making a campfire is really good (no green wood only dead as green wood dont burn well)
spend hours comparing which passer by is attractive ,
just take their mind of whatever is ailing them ,
and if they insist on talking about their depression then listen
a trouble shared is a trouble halved
dont let this person live in a box with the walls closing in , go out together and enjoy the world
@Imakeblunders4.
#1 Tell him, "if you ever want to talk, then ask me and I will listen if I have the time. Don't hesitate to ask me, I'm here for you".
Many people who "are depressed" believe that they hinder the people they care about and therefore don't ask for help.
(I have experienced that myself)
Make sure he knows that you are here for him.
#2 Don't pressure him into doing things you think will help him. Don't ever do that, ever.
Giving advice and trying to help is good, but not if he doesn't want it.
#3 Tell him that the sun and wind can help him.
Sun and wind cure depressing thoughts.
If he can be in the sun and wind, that's good.
#4 Tell him that if he feels like crying, he should do it, as much as he can.
Crying is good, it gets sad thoughts and emotions out.
#5 If it gets to a point where he thinks about suicide(Which I hope won't happen)don't try to avoid talking about it.
Trying to avoid discussions related to suicide will not discourage people from attempting it.
If he wants to talk about/starts talking about suicide, listen to him. Just listening is a great help in of itself.
I hope this helps.
#1 Tell him, "if you ever want to talk, then ask me and I will listen if I have the time. Don't hesitate to ask me, I'm here for you".
Many people who "are depressed" believe that they hinder the people they care about and therefore don't ask for help.
(I have experienced that myself)
Make sure he knows that you are here for him.
#2 Don't pressure him into doing things you think will help him. Don't ever do that, ever.
Giving advice and trying to help is good, but not if he doesn't want it.
#3 Tell him that the sun and wind can help him.
Sun and wind cure depressing thoughts.
If he can be in the sun and wind, that's good.
#4 Tell him that if he feels like crying, he should do it, as much as he can.
Crying is good, it gets sad thoughts and emotions out.
#5 If it gets to a point where he thinks about suicide(Which I hope won't happen)don't try to avoid talking about it.
Trying to avoid discussions related to suicide will not discourage people from attempting it.
If he wants to talk about/starts talking about suicide, listen to him. Just listening is a great help in of itself.
I hope this helps.
Beer virus ruined everyones lives, especially people with bad households
Tell him to play chess in Lichess.
Maybe they would be worse off without you in their life, but haven't said anything.
Maybe your comment is a reminder to us all that we should thank the people who've been supportive to us, through this long crisis.
Maybe your comment is a reminder to us all that we should thank the people who've been supportive to us, through this long crisis.
Talk to him, listen to him, respond to him,damn it give him a hug.human contact is so important. Anger him.refuse to take no for an answer.joke with him,laugh with him.the important thing is to engage with him(or her)propose some new adventure.get him a puppy.listen to music together.just pull him out of his funk and get him back into life and living and happiness,you can do it!!!(if he's suicidal get him help even if he hates you for interfering). Perhaps you should seek out expert advice.we try to help here but none of us are really qualified and our well intended advice may be completely counter productive.
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