Have always been obsessed with numbers when I was a little kid. I thought it had calmed down since. Nope, terribly backfiring. Mental math is my strongest point. Have autistic traits and an erratic personality (less in public though), especially right now as a teenager.
Whenever I play somebody, I basically identify them as a rating, instead of a name. This is messed up. I know. If it's an online game, I will check their profile, and to their rating, and their peak rating, and their victory ratio, etc., comparing with mine. Real-life tournament game? Checking the pairings paper, and absorbing the Elo of my opponent like a sponge. (I wish I could do that literally, imagine absorbing the strength of a 2200 player?!?)
Lately, I played a tournament with a bunch of kids, I was the oldest one, basically the Goliath of the thing. I'm like 1300 rated over the board, you 2000 players are probably lol right now. Guess what? Finished fucking third and won literally nothing because the second place had stronger opponents than me (there were only two cups, my luck), a 1000 rated 9 year old won all his games including against me and went first place. Took me a while to stop being salty about that, I tried telling myself it's more of a cool story if David wins after all. The little guy will have a great tale to tell his parents now.
Also lost an OTB game against a 13 year old that's literally 500 points lower rated than me on lichess, also took a while to get over it, but I eventually did (won my last 6 games with him).
Have a 1-14 record against a player that's similar rated to me. Another similar-rated player, I couldn't beat for like 10 games, I used to be well ahead in h2h, it was reversed. Had 2-10 against a player 100 lower rated than me, made it a bit better recently but still well trailing. All of these leave sour tastes in my mouth, because it makes me feel I am not worthy of the rating I am. Like "WHY CAN'T I BEAT THIS GIRL/GUY? WHY AM I SO BAD?! FU%]@!"
Many times too, I have lost completely won games, giving my opponents all the reasons to never resign. When the opponent has 2 pieces left and I have 10, I still have a good chance of losing.
Let's try to be objective and put myself back in perspective: I have potential. It is hindered by my psyche's weakness. I stop thinking properly when I'm completely winning, as well as when I lost several times. Whenever I lose a couple times, I enter a negative vortex, where I am too salty to think well, and keep losing, and trying again, and still losing. Maybe some of you can relate. I know I should just take a break when that happens. Just rest, reset my brain, then try again refreshed.
I can't. Why? Sore loser. I cannot accept to quit after losing. It leaves me with regret that eats into my heart. This is ridiculous. This must stop. And I have expressed it. Here's one thing I think I did good.
Whenever I play somebody, I basically identify them as a rating, instead of a name. This is messed up. I know. If it's an online game, I will check their profile, and to their rating, and their peak rating, and their victory ratio, etc., comparing with mine. Real-life tournament game? Checking the pairings paper, and absorbing the Elo of my opponent like a sponge. (I wish I could do that literally, imagine absorbing the strength of a 2200 player?!?)
Lately, I played a tournament with a bunch of kids, I was the oldest one, basically the Goliath of the thing. I'm like 1300 rated over the board, you 2000 players are probably lol right now. Guess what? Finished fucking third and won literally nothing because the second place had stronger opponents than me (there were only two cups, my luck), a 1000 rated 9 year old won all his games including against me and went first place. Took me a while to stop being salty about that, I tried telling myself it's more of a cool story if David wins after all. The little guy will have a great tale to tell his parents now.
Also lost an OTB game against a 13 year old that's literally 500 points lower rated than me on lichess, also took a while to get over it, but I eventually did (won my last 6 games with him).
Have a 1-14 record against a player that's similar rated to me. Another similar-rated player, I couldn't beat for like 10 games, I used to be well ahead in h2h, it was reversed. Had 2-10 against a player 100 lower rated than me, made it a bit better recently but still well trailing. All of these leave sour tastes in my mouth, because it makes me feel I am not worthy of the rating I am. Like "WHY CAN'T I BEAT THIS GIRL/GUY? WHY AM I SO BAD?! FU%]@!"
Many times too, I have lost completely won games, giving my opponents all the reasons to never resign. When the opponent has 2 pieces left and I have 10, I still have a good chance of losing.
Let's try to be objective and put myself back in perspective: I have potential. It is hindered by my psyche's weakness. I stop thinking properly when I'm completely winning, as well as when I lost several times. Whenever I lose a couple times, I enter a negative vortex, where I am too salty to think well, and keep losing, and trying again, and still losing. Maybe some of you can relate. I know I should just take a break when that happens. Just rest, reset my brain, then try again refreshed.
I can't. Why? Sore loser. I cannot accept to quit after losing. It leaves me with regret that eats into my heart. This is ridiculous. This must stop. And I have expressed it. Here's one thing I think I did good.