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Contacting players for post game conversation

@wornaki said in #17:
> Hi there. You realize that I would have no trouble responding to any inquiries about my behaviour, right? If my opponent wanted to ask me why I did it, I'd have a ready response, as I do. My response is: It was an experiment. You won't find me doing them that often, not that you would care, since apparently your post is all about "ha, gotcha".

My post is absolutely not about "HA, gotcha". My post is pointing out your clear arrogance and stating you should probably not be throwing stones in a glass house. I am sure in your 10,000 games I could find more examples. Just like I can do the same to ANY player on this site, my self included. We all play terribly sometimes or do silly things.

As an example, I never thought one would need to "experiment" on exposing an undefended piece to an attack after over 10,000 games to know it isn't a good idea. But hey, I "experiment" sometimes too; Also known as unintentional gambits, that was a "sacrifice" and not a blunder, or we can just be real and call it a mistake. Whatever helps you sleep at night and justify your thoughts.

The main point is this:

No one has to answer you on why they did what they did, it is their choice and not your business. Every player is allowed to play how they want to without having to answer to someone they do not know on the internet. The fact that you cannot wrap your head around this and feel insulted by another persons free will is concerning.
I never implied anybody would have to reply to my questions. And as pointed out, many don't. My reason to ask is, I'm curious. The fact that I consider moronic play to be insulting is completely secondary to why I ask them.

Everybody is free to play here if they go by the rules. If anyone feels that my question is especially annoying, there's a way to easily deal with it (and by extension, myself), which is to block me.
For example if I am asked for his I will refuse because maybe the player wants to stay private
Guys, this clearly self absorbed kid is just trying to get attention. His obnoxious replies are proof of that. My advice is to ignore little kids like this that beg for attention.
I'd happily chat with someone who messages me after the game, but if their opening message was to berate me about my level of chess then it'd be a very short conversation.
@BaronVonChickenpants said in #35:
> I'd happily chat with someone who messages me after the game, but if their opening message was to berate me about my level of chess then it'd be a very short conversation.

What is they asked you why you played a subpar opening? Would you feel berated by such a question?
I'm quite curious how #1 starts such a conversation. If you started a conversion with me with "Hey, you played 1.a4 against me. Why did you play this stupid move?", that would be a very short conversation. In fact, that would be everything you'd ever be able to message me, because I wouldn't bother to reply and you'd go straight to the block list.
@Magdiragdag said in #37:
> I'm quite curious how #1 starts such a conversation. If you started a conversion with me with "Hey, you played 1.a4 against me. Why did you play this stupid move?", that would be a very short conversation. In fact, that would be everything you'd ever be able to message me, because I wouldn't bother to reply and you'd go straight to the block list.

Understandable. Blocking is a tool. Ignoring somebody is also a tool. It's funny, though, that many people (myself included) find it reasonable to react to a questioning of the moves of a player in those ways, but much fewer people find it reasonable to be curious about why somebody plays purposefully bad moves.
@wornaki said in #36:
> What is they asked you why you played a subpar opening? Would you feel berated by such a question?

It'd come down to the manner in which it was asked. If it was "Hey, you played a trash opening you fool" then it'd be s short conversation. If it was "I see you like attacking openings, perhaps you might want to look at opening X which is generally thought of as better than the one you just tried " then I think we'd get on ok
@BaronVonChickenpants said in #39:
> It'd come down to the manner in which it was asked. If it was "Hey, you played a trash opening you fool" then it'd be s short conversation. If it was "I see you like attacking openings, perhaps you might want to look at opening X which is generally thought of as better than the one you just tried " then I think we'd get on ok

Yes of course how he asks it is extremely important. I'd say something like "Excuse me, if I could take a minute of your time to ask you something. I was just wondering why you played the bongcloud as it's generally thought that playing it puts white at a big disadvantage"
There are still those that never answer anything or that wouldn't answer for other reasons but I'd bet that for people that do answer pm's you'd get a high rate of answers if you asked it like that.

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