i played a tournament and every time i lost a game i wanted to punch my opponent.
Here i lose its fine, i am cool but there i got really angry.
now i played fine, i did not underpeform, but i wanted to beat everyone.
in the end i liked it.
Anger management is a key issue when playing chess for me. I've abandoned the game in the past because of that, for months in a row.
Now I use it as a measurement of my control over my passions. If I struggle to keep calm, that means that something is affecting me. Stress? Sickness? Tiredness? So I leave for some hours, and after having eaten, drank and had some rest I try again. Then things are different.
My 2 cents.
@bruno-unna i am not an angry person, i am really not.
i do not know what happened to me, i really liked the tense,full of adrenaline games.
Over the board chess is so much different than online chess. Most enjoy over the board more. I enjoy it more, but online makes chess so much more accessible to me as well, so I ultimately enjoy both for various reasons.
-Jordan
If you play online, there's nobody to punch but yourself. ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
@box_boxed But there is always the computer or phone which you can punch. And, at times I did it. Once I nearly destroyed my laptop.
You should consider joining the Chuck Norris Chessboxing Club.
@sameartist I think that's the reason why I haven't been participating in tournaments. They involve more commitment. When I lose at a regular game, I lose some points. That doesn't make me happy, but it's not terrible either. But in a tournament, losing a game might imply losing the fantastic opportunity to become the tournament winner.
That level of anger is a bit extreme, frankly, and not good. Sure, you should feel an adrenaline surge and some aggression, but wanting to throw punches at every one of your victors in a tournament isn't normal.
I think the only way through this is through some self-knowledge and anger management. If playing tournament chess causes you to recognize you have anger issues, and then deal with them, this could wind up being a positive experience.
Not judging here and trying not to lecture. That said, I think it's important that you be told that what you've described is not typical and isn't good.
Bring someone who can comfort u in the real tournament
