@TheKingClash said in #1:
> I have recently heard about some complaints that people don't accept rematches, but in my opinion, players have the right to decide whether to accept a rematch or not. However, I think the experience I had was bad sportmanship, annoying and just wasted my time.
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> I played a game of three check, I was black, and my opponent crushed me and won in only a few moves. I asked for a rematch, he declined, but that was fine, as explained in the first paragraph. The problem came about when I returned to the lobby to play another game.
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> The problem was when the same opponent made another lobby challenge. Seeing that this was the only three check challenge available, I accepted the challenge, and I got to play white. My opponent then waited for his clock to run down, hence the game was aborted automatically.
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> To further enrage me, when returning to the lobby a second time today, the same opponent had made another lobby challenge and again I accepted, and again I got to play white. The opponent aborted the game a second time.
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> Either the opponent aborted the second and third games because he wanted to play white, or because he did not want to play me again in a lobby challenge. I think that whichever reason is true, in my opinion this is bad sportsmanship. Everyone is welcome to share their thoughts on this, is that behaviour (aborting two consecutive games in a row, against the same opponent, when he made an open lobby challenge) allowed on Lichess or not, and what should I do?
I've been on the opposite end of this situation and the reasoning was purely that I wanted to play someone else. It has happened after I won the initial game. It has happened after I lost the initial game. The game result wasn't a factor. I enjoyed my game with that person, but now I am looking to try a different opponent. You mentioned over the board chess, I guess it would be like if you got paired with the same person twice in a row (keep in mind I am referring to rapid or classical games). I will often accept the rematch in blitz games, because the games are very short. But in long games, I prefer to play a different person every time if possible. I am certainly not trying to be rude, and I have no negative feelings toward the person when I decline the rematch. Hopefully this was the case in your described situation. I think after he declined the rematch and you joined his new game, yeah he probably thought it was a tad pushy. You said he won quickly, so maybe he wasnt interested afterwards. If it were me in his situation I'd probably think to myself, "Aren't we persistent? Fine. I'll smash you again" and then played out the game. But I am not in his head so I cant tell you for sure why he did what he did.