A thought I feel like sharing 4.0

Your example is Over rewarding. Kids do deserve rewards when they get an A during school ends.

On the other hand, kids should be Warned they will have tooth decay if they don't brush regularly, they will become janitors and gardeners if they don't study well

Your example is Over rewarding. Kids do deserve rewards when they get an A during school ends. On the other hand, kids should be Warned they will have tooth decay if they don't brush regularly, they will become janitors and gardeners if they don't study well

Eyvazova_2009

You're so right man @Shadow1414 my classmates only study (it's not even proper study, they literally just remember things and then forget really quickly) because if they get good grades their moms will buy they a new phone or etc.
I agree that if a child ends the year/school with great or good grades they can be rewarded but not too often.
I am literally so disappointed in my class.

You're so right man @Shadow1414 my classmates only study (it's not even proper study, they literally just remember things and then forget really quickly) because if they get good grades their moms will buy they a new phone or etc. I agree that if a child ends the year/school with great or good grades they can be rewarded but not too often. I am literally so disappointed in my class.

Eyvazova_2009

What can I say about myself, my mom doesn't really reward me often for good grades, because I know that I study/do good things for myself, not for rewards.
And that for I am really grateful for her.

What can I say about myself, my mom doesn't really reward me often for good grades, because I know that I study/do good things for myself, not for rewards. And that for I am really grateful for her.

guywexler

there is something that is half related that is happening in my class.
there are a few kids in my class that always distrupts lessons and sing and do pushups during lessons, when they dont do anything bad, my teacher congratulates them, but the kids who act in a good way every lesson don't get congratulated becouse thats their normal behavior

there is something that is half related that is happening in my class. there are a few kids in my class that always distrupts lessons and sing and do pushups during lessons, when they dont do anything bad, my teacher congratulates them, but the kids who act in a good way every lesson don't get congratulated becouse thats their normal behavior

AHeroRises

@Shadow1414 said in #1:

Giving one's children rewards for doing things such as brushing their teeth, doing homework, and helping themselves is bad parenting.

It gives them the idea that the reward is the benefit and reason for doing such things.

When they grow up, they won't do the things they were ones rewarded for doing, since — in their mind — there's no benefit in doing them.

Motivations for behavior change as we grow older. A child may not be fully aware of why the things you mentioned are important. Does a child understand the concept of a job? Do they understand what money is? Does the child understand the social / health consequences of having bad teeth? Should a child understand these things at the age of five? at the age of ten?

It's unhealthy to expect a child to understand and view the world as an adult does. Give children the opportunity to enjoy childhood, while giving them rewards a child would understand and enjoy for doing things an adult would do (with different motivations).

Have the courage to believe that your children are capable of growth and understanding. Someday their motivations for doing behaviors will change, as they grow older. There are very "adult" reasons for doing homework / brushing one's teeth. A child should not be bothered by those adult motivations; they may not be fully capable of understanding them at their age, and nor should they be expected to.

Motivations for behavior change as we grow older. That's the process of maturing into an adult.

@Shadow1414 said in #1: > Giving one's children rewards for doing things such as brushing their teeth, doing homework, and helping themselves is bad parenting. > > It gives them the idea that the *reward* is the benefit and reason for doing such things. > > When they grow up, they won't do the things they were ones rewarded for doing, since — in their mind — there's no benefit in doing them. Motivations for behavior change as we grow older. A child may not be fully aware of why the things you mentioned are important. Does a child understand the concept of a job? Do they understand what money is? Does the child understand the social / health consequences of having bad teeth? Should a child understand these things at the age of five? at the age of ten? It's unhealthy to expect a child to understand and view the world as an adult does. Give children the opportunity to enjoy childhood, while giving them rewards a child would understand and enjoy for doing things an adult would do (with different motivations). Have the courage to believe that your children are capable of growth and understanding. Someday their motivations for doing behaviors will change, as they grow older. There are very "adult" reasons for doing homework / brushing one's teeth. A child should not be bothered by those adult motivations; they may not be fully capable of understanding them at their age, and nor should they be expected to. Motivations for behavior change as we grow older. That's the process of maturing into an adult.

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