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What about rage?

In my journey to real chess improvement I have found an heretofore unknown rage. I am getting very upset after games and trying to focus on constructiveness, analyze the games, tactics practice. What is helpful for dealing with rage?
Finding something you value just as much if not more than chess. It's one thing to remind yourself that chess is just a game, it's another entirely to internalize that fact, so that you don't need to be reminded.
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I enjoy reading should be setting aside time for it. Some expectation weighing on me to improve more during quarantine time. thank you
View every loss as a chance to learn and improve (sry I can’t think of much else!) if you have lost several games in a row and are really frustrated/angry, take a break, post in forums (because I know you like doing those) talk to somebody, do anything else. Because it’s about chess improvement and improving your understanding so every loss will help you learn new things.

I used to get raged at ultra because I lost tons of rating (and obviously ultra isn’t going to give you nearly as much chess improvement as slower chess) but now I don’t care as much. Just take a break if you’re getting frustrated and lost several games in a row.
Those are good suggestions. I'm going to try not taking it so seriously for a few minutes.
The thing is to try not take the losses personally. Viewing it as a good or bad outcome, where losing is always terrible. Try to look at it a little differently, and also the fact that everyone loses games, even Carlsen, losses are part of the hobby.
I am processing it a little, some is I am placing expectations that I raise my rating so much, particularly since I have a little time with the quarantine. Also, taking chess alot more seriously the last few months with a structured chess study schedule and I am getting angry about some of the losses.

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